Valentine’s Love or Lust? Top 100 Pop Songs Celebrate Love as ‘Drunk,’ Dirty Sex

Lyrics reveal culture’s twisted notion of what love is.


Editor’s Note: This story contains some very graphic language.

Turn on the radio this Valentine’s Day and you will hear some strange messages of what love means. Drunk, high, gay, straight, a fling, or the true thing, love is described many ways in today’s popular songs.

According to many songs on Billboard’s “The Hot 100,” love is basically sex. Not with commitment behind it, but as an “addicting,” drug-and-alcohol fueled whirlwind experience. The line, “You’re an animal” from Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines,” best reflects the nature of love in these songs: hedonistic, and mindless.

The second-most popular song on the list, “Drunk in Love” by Beyonce, most blatantly celebrates drunk sex. The song describes a drunken lust-filled night of depravity with graphic descriptions of all kinds of sex.


Foreplay in a foyer, fucked up my Warhol

Slid the panties right to the side, ain't got the time to take drawers off


Other songs like “Timber” by Ke$ha chant, “End of the night, it’s going down/ One more shot, another round/ End of the night, it’s going down,” and “Show Me” by Kid Ink with Chris Brown also uplift drunk sex with the lyrics, “Oh baby show me, show me something/Tomorrow I might be hungover, that don't mean nothing.”

Some songs sent the message that you could enjoy sex without any kind of emotional or mental consequences. Lady Gaga’s “Do What U Want,” chants:


“Do what you want with my body

Sometimes I'm scared I suppose

If you ever let me go

I would fall apart

If you break my heart

So just take my body

And don't stop the party”


Similarily, Zedd’s “Stay the Night” praises sex without commitment:


“Are you gonna stay the night?

Doesn't mean we're bound for life

So oh oh oh, are you gonna stay the night?”


Drake’s “The Language” talks about love as a one-night-stand:


She just want to smoke and fuck, I said ‘Girl, that's all that we do’

Okay, now you're talking my language, now you're talking my language.”


Not surprisingly, in the popular rap songs women are described only in physically, sexual ways and called “bitches,” “hoes,” and “broads.” “Paranoid” by Ty Dolla Sign was one of the worst songs on the list, calling women “bitches” or “hoes” 14 times and bragging about using two women at once:


“I'm fuckin' around with two bitches

But I never made them hoes my misses.”


“Talk Dirty” by Jason Derulo and 2 Chainz lives up (or down) to its name and also demeans women as nothing more than body parts:


“Her pussy so good I bought her a pet

Anyway, every day I'm trying to get to it

Got her saved in my phone under "Big Booty."


A few songs also promoted homosexuality. Like Macklemore’s gay anthem at the Grammy’s, “Same Love,” Kacey Musgrave’s song, “Follow your arrow” equates any kind of love as equal in truth:


"Kiss lots of boys

Or kiss lots of girls

If that's something you're into

When the straight and narrow

Gets a little too straight

Roll up a joint, or don't

Just follow your arrow

Wherever it points"


There is still hope though that the culture hasn’t completely forgotten what love is. Though several songs equated love to lust,  several songs also celebrated love in better ways. Songs like “Compass” by the country group “Lady Antebellum,” celebrate loyalty in relationships with the lyrics, “No matter what, you’ll never be alone.” Katy Perry’s “Unconditionally” and The Fray’s “Love don’t die” both honor the faithfulness and honesty of love. Dierks Bentley’s “I Hold On” describes love as a commitment:


“There ain't never been no doubt

Without you I'd be nothing

So if you ever worry about

Me walking out

Yeah, let me tell you something,

I hold on.”


It’s heartening to see a few well-liked songs spreading good messages about love this year, though too many songs spread false notions about love within our culture.


— Kristine Marsh is Staff Writer for MRC Culture at the Media Research Center. Follow Kristine Marsh on Twitter.